Question: Life Question. Am I over exaggerating?

( Back )

Answer #1:

1.) That guy was hesitant because he didnt want to go through dumb shit again.
2.) Why would you go out with an old fart.
3.) The dude loves you now because he WILL NEED help when he goes to therapy and around the house (one of the reasons he wanted to marry you).
4.) You will be stuck with him almost 24/7 until he gets use to his prostethic leg or walking sticks.
5.) Why do you think he asked to marry you? you were a last minute desperate attempt to dump his problems on you.
6.) Good Luck. Have Fun. :)

Answer #2:

Having worries is natural, given what you are about to go through. If we are to get into the psychology of it, the truth is, whoever first asks the question (of 'will you marry me?') is usually less nervous about it in the ensuing days/weeks/months. The reason for this is because the most difficult part (for your partner in this case) is to come out and ask you. He has gotten past this big hurdle. In turn, perhaps since it was somewhat out of the blue for you to be put on the spot with this question, you are realising what a loaded question it really is, and the exactly what marriage means.

It can be make things tough when you surround yourself with single party-goers like your cousin, when marriage is just around the corner, but it's inevitable. This is more a question of whether you want to be single, or have the security of a relationship. Marriage is not really a part of this.

Regarding the age difference, love knows no bounds. 12 years is a big gap, but you need to remind yourself of why you love him. Make a list of pro's and con's and figure out which side is favourable.

Lastly, perhaps a bit deep, and maybe a little bit harsh; he may feel as though nobody else will want him, given the operation he has just had, and as a result be feeling inferior. This may have accelerated his want of getting married and having the security of somebody who he knows loved him before the accident.

Good luck. Feel free to post back and I will reply if you have any other questions.

George

Answer #3:

He asked you to marry him in a time of extreme weakness. I very much love my wife, and she makes great decisions EXCEPT when she is under duress. I don't think this is a sincere thing. You have invested a lot of time. However, you don't want to be miserable. Being 12 years older, he better be able to provide well for you. It looks to me like he can't. Slow it down or walk away.

Answer #4:

There is so much going on in your mind its pushing you into confusion.

Yes it can just be cold feet, or put another way you are challenging your own thoughts and feelings before what you see as a final stage in a more committed and permanent future.

This is normal and shows that you are testing your perceptions to find an answer one way or the other, it may not be possible to find a clear answer one way or the other but it gives you time to consider all the possibilities. do you need to get married or do you need more time.

Some of your worries need to be talked over, like what if you want children at some stage what happens then, or how you feel about being a step mum or any thing else that worries you. by clarifying what you can it will remove some of the unknown worries and leave less uncertainty and make room for positive thoughts and feelings.

In the end its about how you feel about him, regarding if you will be happy that unfortunately is normally only found out over time like any thing else in life nothing is certain to work out the way we want it to..

I wish you all the very best





** Powered by Yahoo Answers